After Many Years I believe that Crack Cocaine Addiction
is a two part problem, composed of physical and mental
addiction and a unique Lifestyle Addiction. In my opinion,
this Lifestyle addiction carries an almost equal weight as
the physical and mental addiction of Crack. A misconception
is that Crack Addiction is largely a choice by the addict.
Don't believe it. Users are severely and almost hopelessly
addicted to this drug and to the lifestyle. When they
combine the two they will rule and ruin their life and their
loved ones. I know because my daughter is addicted to Crack
and the Lifestyle. Have you ever noticed how difficult it is
to stop smoking? In terms of Crack, we are dealing with the
most addictive drug in existence. Lifestyle is also an equal
part of the problem. This is not only a lifestyle without
responsibility but a subculture unto it's own. There are no
jobs, no bills to pay, no home upkeep, no responsibility and
no time schedule. Users do whatever they want all day and
night. It is a hedonistic lifestyle. Get high as often as
you can and If your female have sex whenever you need more
money for Crack. If your Male have Homosexual Sex to get the
Crack or Money for Crack. Male and Female Addicts also steal
and con daily to support their need. Most Crack users love
That's a large reason why they are there and continue it.
As long as their looks and health hold up. The drug plays
the role of masking out responsibility and conscience. It
makes the Addict feel bulletproof and Blows up their egos
until they feel they can do anything with impunity. Until
the desire of and for this lifestyle and drug is broken, the
addiction will continue. It is also a lifestyle where the
Addict does not take responsibility for any of his actions.
They blame anyone and anything for their addiction. What you
are about to read is very straightforward. It has to be.
Some of what you will read cannot be over emphasized. The
problem is if your not addicted, or have not dealt with
someone who is addicted for a long time, you most likely
won't believe or agree with most of this. My authority for
writing this is that I have a Daughter who is 36 years old
and has been an addict for the last 12 years. I also know
and have talked extensively with two of her addict friends
who have been non users respectively 5 and 8 years. I have
also had conversations over the last 12 years with several
other people who use drugs and with people who have loved
ones in their life that use drugs. I also have done
extensive reading on the web on this subject. I think I am
qualified, at least, to give my opinion.
Most crack addicts don't have jobs, they don't want a job
( how can you work and do Crack) and could not hold one for
long. An addicts daily use of crack can cost between $100
and $300. Money is also needed for small amounts of food,
drug paraphernalia and liquor/beer. Crack addicts also need
places to sleep and/or smoke crack. My daughter usually
makes one of her "customers" get her a motel room each
night. At the beginning of each day a crack addict usually
has no money and on some days no place to stay. But these
are resourceful, manipulative people who are able to create
substantial amounts of cash daily. If they are female it is
even easier. My daughter calls herself a "Money Maker".
Can you do that? It's difficult to relate how skillful
these addicts become. When you meet an addict for the first
time, they size you up immediately. If you are an easy mark,
you will be manipulated and become a part of their life. If
they see you are interested in romance, you are in big
trouble. If you are their Mother, Father, Sister, Brother
your love will make no difference. No, your love isn't going
to change them. But It can destroy you if you let it.
A psychologist at a drug treatment center related the
mechanics of a first meeting with a Crack addict. He said,
"It's like the Green Bay Packers playing your high school
team. You don't have a chance". Don't ever think you can
buck those odds. As a normal person it is difficult to
understand a person who manipulates and scams all day, every
day and night long. This is a necessity for addicts to
survive and if they target you, you will not be an
exception. You will be just another person who is used,
destroyed and dumped without a second thought or regret.
Dealing with a crack addict that is someone you love is
totally disabling. It will interfere with your sleep, your
work, your general concentration. It will ruin your
financial health and your general outlook on life if you let
it. If you are just beginning the discovery of your addict
you will read what follows and probably not take it to
heart. That's because you haven't had your head or wallet
beat in enough as yet. If you have been dealing with an
addict you will find some tips and explanations that will
make some sense and might be helpful.
First lets examine the physical aspects of "Crack
Lets get the worse out of the way first. Users can have
"crack seizures" using the drug and it is not uncommon for
users to have heart attacks. A police officer once told me
about a woman who got out of jail and immediately went to a
crack house. She had been clean for 6 months while in jail.
Because she had not used in so long, after she had smoked
all night she had a heart attack and died.
Crack also produces an effect called "crack lung". Crack
damages the immune system of the lungs making the lungs more
susceptible to disease. Shortness of breath, cough,
wheezing, and chest pains can be symptoms of lung problems
from crack use. My daughter has had re-occurring respiratory
problems and a general condition of massive weight loss,
visible aging and being "sick looking". If she stops using
for a few months, her health starts to improve and she gains
her weight back.
Genera effects of Crack use are depression, confusion,
hallucinations anxiety, paranoia, poor concentration,
personality changes, cardiac seizures, respiratory seizures,
lung damage, blood vessel constriction, increased blood
pressure, increased heart rate, loss of sexual ability (for
men), brain seizures that result in oxygen deprivation in
the brain, rise in blood sugar levels, rise in body
temperature, and sleeplessness. This information is
available on the web. I only know what I read and what I
know about one person (my daughter).
Crack is cheap and much easier to obtain than any other
drug. In the small city where we live, you are literally
never more than 15 minutes from a crack house (or another
Dealer). I think ther may be more crack houses and dealers
than convenience stores. If you are new to town there are
people selling on the streets (in XXXXXX it's called the
"Cuts"). But if you are in the know, its available all over
You can pick up Crack street whore (like my daughter) who
will introduce you to crack houses but not to the dealers,
they are smarter than that. Watch your wallet, watch your
car, and don't get involved with them because before its
over you will be many dollars poorer. Back to the buying of
crack.. Don't worry, she will get it for most everyone, once
she is sure your not the LAW(at a small profit). There are
also delivery services. Some crack dealers have regular
business hours ( up until about 4 AM) during which they will
deliver crack to you within minutes after a call to their
mobile phone. Some of the delivery people will sell you more
than Crack (my daughter does this and says she can make up
around $ 500.00 a night without breaking a sweat). Of course
she spends $ 600.00 a night on Crack.
If you have someone in your home who is trying to quit,
don't leave them alone. While you are at the grocery store
for 15 minutes, they will be able to buy and smoke Crack.
There is very little odor so you will be unaware. Look for
"Chore Boy" and Crack pipes if you have the chance. Also
look at their lips and finger tips for burns or scaring from
holding hot Crack pipes.
Crack use is at epidemic levels It is difficult for a
normal person to understand the vast numbers of people using
this drug. Some users maintain jobs, at least for a while. I
call them functioning addicts. Here is an important point.
If your addict has a job, get his boss or company involved.
This is particularly effective with men. Men find a great
deal of identity with their jobs and the fear of
losing a job can motivate them to change. Don't be
afraid to do this. Most companies are used to getting
alcoholics treated. Companies are often sympathetic with
such problems as many families have some kind of
addiction problem. But, eventually the addiction
overtakes them and they will lose everything
including their jobs and families. Crack users continually
steal and scam people. They are constantly being kicked out
and moving from one place to another. Many
addicts don't stay in one place for more than a couple
of weeks. Usually arguments over drugs and/or
their stealing will cause the move.
In my opinion women are most vulnerable to
crack. It seems as though there is something in a woman's
personality that causes them to be more easily
addicted. The female population of prisons and jails
has increased dramatically due to the large numbers of women
incarcerated for Crack and other drug use and the
crimes that they commit in order to get more money for more
An important thing to remember is that it is an easier
life for a woman after her morals are stripped away.
Crack gouges out all personal standards and
morals. Most women who prostitute for cash or drugs
find this lifestyle exciting (but most times not
fulfilling). Crack will turn the most moral woman into
a thief and whore without any conscience. If
you observe outpatient counseling programs(from my reading)
that are gender non-specific, you will find few
women in the programs. There is simply no
motivation for them to change. It's just too easy for
women. According to a recent report by Ted Koppel,
nearly 80% of females incarcerated for drugs will
return to jail (for some reason) after being released.
Remember, those are just the ones who get caught. My
daughter has been incarcerated ten times and in Prison once
and has had more than 24 charges brought against her. Thats
just the times she was caught. She has had numerous charges
not brought against her because the man involved either was
married or was young enough to not want his parents to know
what and who he had been involved with.
My daughter likes to pick up young guys 18 to 20
something. She says she can usually get all their money just
by promising to give them some, or just by stealing it, then
she ditches them. They never knew what hit them. All of a
sudden they are alone, broke, and if she needs wheels, their
car or pickup is gone too.
Having a Crack addict in your life isn't just
difficult. It's impossible. That's the first thing you
have to realize and accept. It's almost impossible to
carry on a conversation with them without a fight. It is
impossible to convince them that they have a "Drug Problem".
But then again - They will tell you how they are quitting or
going to "slow down or Take It Easy". I have had my
daughter tell me this more times than I can remember. As
long as they are in "denial" there is no hope of even
They all know when and how they are going to
quit. A common statistic is that 40% of all addicted
people will be successful in recovering. This number
includes alcohol and all drugs (this percentage
changes slightly depending on which study you read).
Considering crack is MUCH harder to kick, you can see
the percentage of success in kicking crack is much
closer to zero. From my experience with my daughter
over almost 12 years, she has "quit" numerous times but
always goes back to using Crack. But, from what I read, it
is not totally impossible. It depends on the strength
and desire to quit of the individual addict.
Research indicates that when addicted individuals stop
using cocaine, they often suffer from
depression, anxiety and the inability to experience
pleasure from normally pleasurable activities
(including Sex). This makes it extremely difficult for
the recovering addict to stay clean because they
continuously expect the same bang they get from/
under the influence of crack use.
My daughter says she has lost the ability to have an
orgasm. She says she hates sex now, yet she admits to having
had sexual intercourse on average of three times a day. She
doesn't even bother counting the number of times she has
oral sex a day.
People incarcerated for lengthy periods of
time will walk out of jail and go directly to a dealer or
crack house to buy. My daughter is a prime example of
this. She told me that when she got out of State Prison, she
had smoked Crack within a couple of hours of arriving at her
home town in West Texas. She has also bragged that she has
had Crack and a Beer within a few minutes of being released
from the local Jail. She brags that she is a "Real Money
Maker". You don't even have to guess how she makes her
A crack addict who wants to quit is actually
attending therapy (Rehab) or is in a halfway house.
Or, a crack addict who wants to quit has removed himself
from the lifestyle (Stays Home) and has no visitors- Virtual
House Arrest- and is drug free , proven with frequent
urine tests. A crack addict who is promising to quit is
slicking, scamming and manipulating you. If you
are in doubt, take the addict for a urine test. They
are inexpensive. Make sure the testing facility actually
watches the addict urinate into the cup. It is
very common for addicts to substitute
someone else's clean urine for their own.
Never let a crack addict blame you for their
addiction. This is a common and tireless manipulation. They
will constantly tell you that something you said or have
done made them smoke Crack, initially start smoking
Crack or start using Crack again. Unless you are
actually putting the crack pipe in their mouth and lighting
it or buying it for them, you are in no way at
fault. Unless you are like me and gave them a place to stay
and paid all the bills. Many times they will blame the
person closest to them as the total cause for
their addiction. As the addiction progresses through
time, the addicts ability to reason becomes
totally depleted. They will give explanations to you
that will leave you astounded. Their thinking becomes
totally irrational and that is why you can never believe
or rely on anything they say.
Another common and very frequently used ploy
is the "argument" or "fight". If an addict is in your
home trying to stay clean or recovering from a binge,
they will skillfully create an argument or fight with
you and leave. It is just a ploy to get back to
the street life. Later, they will blame you as
the cause of the argument. Again, you will be the
causative factor for their continuing drug use. You will
discover addicts never take personal
responsibility for their drug use. It's always someone
or some situation that causes them to use the
Crack addicts are in involved in four,
and only four, activities all day and all
night long. They get money for crack (selling their body,
stealing, conning, begging). They buy crack. They smoke
crack. They crash and sleep. If an addict is talking to you
or seeing you in person then you are going to be
involved in one of those four activities. No, crack
addicts do not call home to just say " I love you",
they will always be looking for money or something to assist
them in getting money for Crack. Crack addicts call
home because you are an easy mark. If you are not
planning to be involved in one of those four daily
activities, get away from the addict and do not talk to
Crack makes men horny and women uninhibited, daring and
stupid. Women will do most anything in pairs or in
groups ("Gangster Parties"). Just about anything
you ask a woman to do, she will comply, if you are the
person with the Crack or with the money. When a woman
needs a hit bad enough, her body is yours to do what ever
you want with it. Unfortunately for men, crack
often prevents them from getting or keeping an
erection even though they are highly sexually
aroused. It is not uncommon for sexually straight female
addicts to engage in lesbian acts with other women to
get money for crack. This is from information from the web,
But my daughter has admitted to doing it a "couple of
Crack addicts don't like to be in publi
places or crowds because they can't smoke or get their
Crack. Crack addicts rarely go to restaurants.
They frequent drive through at fast food restaurants.
Crack addicts can live comfortably in any place as
long as they have their Crack. They might come back to you
to crash in your clean house, but they could care less, its
just a place to crash. I have picked up my daughter at
places that looked like they were not even livable, but she
could care less because there was Crack There.
Crack Whores have sex numerous times per day
and they sometimes fail to use protection. My daughter has
had two abortions and one child while under the influence of
Crack. Her baby was born with cocaine in her system. Its
God's Grace that she seems OK up to this point (two years
old). Crack seems to make an addicted person feel
powerful and invincible but act in total stupidity.
A Crack addict will drain your life
emotionally and financially. If they are at your house
(awake, not crashed) and high, just watching them is
tiring as they are on a speed trip accompanied
by loads of paranoia. They are constantly checking doors,
windows and switching lights on and off. They can not
enjoy a movie, video or Radio Station for more than a
few minutes without changing to something else. They
are constantly moving about. If they take any other drugs or
drink in addition to the Crack, really unusual and sometimes
violent behavior can follow. My daughter went on a cleaning
spree at our house that lasted almost 24 hours. They
can develop motor function problems. They are
not aware of any of these behaviors. Seriously
addicted users lose a lot of weight because crack
diminishes their appetites
They will tirelessly challenge your ability to say
"NO". Whenyou think they are out of your life they
will call again or come knocking on your door. They
NEVER give up. They shamelessly keep calling anyone they
know with money or a place to stay. The word
"NO" does not phase them. If crack was legal and
I owned a tele-marketing company, I would hire crack
addicts as tele-marketers.
They will continuously make up the best
excuses to extract money from you. Excuses can range
from needing money for antibiotics to needing money
for rent. When you offer to go to the drugstore to
pay for the antibiotics they will give a phony reason
why you can't. If you don't give them money they
will steal from you, any relative, friend or even a child.
If you don't give them money they will still steal from
someone else. They will use stolen credit cards, forge
checks, shop lift or break into homes. They take
stolen merchandise back to stores and attempt to get
cash refunds. NOTHING is safe in your home. Even
If it's an heir loom wedding ring, it's gone. They
become great manipulators and will heartlessly suck
any unprepared person of all their emotional and financial
Crack addicts go through a cycle. They binge
24 hours a day for a few days and then crash. The
crash consists of almost uninterrupted sleep
resembling a coma ( I have seen my daughter's baby
shake and hit her trying to wake her up to no avail.) During
this time they will get up and consume large amounts
of water and large amounts of food, to replenish their
destroyed bodies and maybe take a bath. While they are
eating they are sometimes in a near comatose state. When
they crash they are extremely tired and
depressed. At crash time an addict will call or come to
your door and tell you most convincingly they are done
with drugs. They will say they are tired of the
whole thing and will never go back to it. If you will
believe this story and allow them to crash and
replenish themselves, at the end of the sleep cycle they
will get up, start an argument and walk right back out
your door to do it again.If a crack addict is
really ready to quit /she/he will submit to a detox
center followed up by therapy.If you allow an addict
to crash at your house all you will be doing is
providing a restaurant and flop house to further
their addiction. Plus a laundry mat if your as stupid
as I was.
Remember those sci-fi horror movies where
outer space beings come to earth, get inside of humans
bodies and possess them? That is what you are
dealing with. On Crack, your loved one or friend has
become a possessed being. Forget about talking
to the person you used to know. They are no
longer there. You must realize that. You are now
dealing with a force that is more powerful than you
and them. This is where successfu families have difficulty.
Successful people are used to being abl3 to resolve most
problems with money. At the outset they think they can solve
this one as well. At first a family will try to work it out
between themselves. When considering experienced counselors
have such low success rates, you must realize this is an
impossible avenue as families simply do not have the
experience or counseling tools to deal with this problem.
They will spend thousands of dollars on expensive treatment
clinics and other help avenues without any success. They
cling to the thought that there is always hope. And yes,
there is one and only one hope. There is hope that the
addict will hit bottom so hard that he/she will seek
treatment or quit on their own. My Ex Wife is the one
who pointed this out to me when I was trying to ignore it
after all these years. Its not that I really did not know
this, its more like I was desperately trying to find a way
to help. But I was really only dragging out the final
solution. Which is: The Addict has to want to quit and stay
The only way that will happen is when families and
friends remove the addict from their lives (something that
is hard to do for me now, because of my Grand Daughter).
Involvement with an addict only extends the time for them to
hit bottom because you are "Enabling Them".
Letting go is the most difficult part in dealing with a
loved one. Removing a loved one from your life is painful
but it is the only hope to having them in your life again.
You simply have to do this. Remember that this includes
giving them any financial assistance.
While you are being broken emotionally and drained
financially an addict will talk about his real friends, and
guess what, that's not you. A woman addict will tell you
about a real friend ( a Sugar Daddy) who doesn't like her to
whore so he gives her money while, in his mind, he is
receiving gratuitous sex (my daughter has 3 guys that think
like this at this time). But you should understand that
friend is only temporary because the cash and emotional
drain will eventually make him turn her out. Female addicts
like these kinds of friends. They have no real friends.
Don't be insulted when an addict mentions their other so
called real friends (other addicts or dealers). Just be
smart and don't open your pocketbook again. When the addict
asks for money, tell them to call the real friends.
Don't become fascinated or furious about an addicts
bizarre behavior. This was a trap for me and it can keep you
emotionally involved. At first I became wrapped up in
curiosity and concern about my daughter's daily life. This
was my initial and biggest mistake. It started (after I had
bailed her out of Jail ) - the first time - over 12 years
Crack whores have an interesting perspective on their
customers. They call them "Tricks" or "Dates" and say it
with disdain and disgust like they are "getting over" on
their customers. They think their customers are suckers and
fools. Many men like to have sex with Crack whores because
they know they will do anything. So for $ 40 - $50 a man can
get a Crack whore to do anything. Each time a woman does
this, a little more of her soul is eaten away until
eventually none remains. So, now consider, who is the sucker
or fool here?
Crack addicts are fearful of the police and
incarceration. When they are incarcerated, there is no more
crack (or cigarettes). They also have no diversions, no
rushes, no sex, no nothing. Jail is a real hell for them and
they will say, promise or do anything to get out. So when
they call be aware of this and don't fall into the trap of
believing them. I have with my daughter numerous times and
always have been lied to and her promises were never kept.
So save your Bail money, because bailing them out is like
flushing it down the toilet.
Here are some tips that are just my opinion, but I think
Never give money to an addict.
Never give an addict items they can sell or pawn.
Never believe them when they say "I will never do drugs
Never let them use your house for sleeping or bathing or
Never accept collect telephone calls from them.
Don't be curious about what they are doing. Assume they
are doing the worst imaginable because they are. Remember
every act of kindness only extends the time to where they
hit bottom. Acts of kindness only hurt them. Helping a Crack
addict is a mistake. Let them suffer and make up their mind
to quit for today and to seek help.
Change the locks on your home and don't give them a key.
Do not leave them alone in your home and remove all cash. Do
not allow them in your home with their friends as their
friends will return and burglarize you. The only friends
they have are other addicts, and they are not really
Never believe anything they say, only respond through
their actions. Telling you they are going to drug treatment
is meaningless. Remember you are a non-person to them. You
are only a vehicle and easy mark to further their addiction.
Never bail them out of jail or pay their fines. Also,
don't send them "Commissary " money in Jail.
If they need to be arrested call the police. Jail is
safer for them than the street. Never let them crash at your
house. Learn to be strong with them and don't ever waiver;
even slightly on the word "NO".
Learn to let them go from your life. It is the most
difficult thing to do but it will protect you and help them.
They are the only ones who can help themselves.